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Friday Poem – I Believe

i-believeBrowsing through the Top 500 poems list, looking for a suitable poem for today, I stumbled across this truly wonderful poem by Sienna Harlequinn.

Her name is all I could find out. But the poem speaks volumes and pretty much sums up my philosophy on life.

So, enjoy it:

I BELIEVE

I believe that the sun shines after the rain
I believe if you don’t get hurt you’ll never gain
I believe in not doing things the easy way
I believe that being selfish doesn’t pay

I believe in a second chance
I believe in a life long romance
I believe there is life after death
And standing up to a life of mess

I believe in love at first sight
I believe that revenge isn’t right
I believe that first impressions last
And there is nothing better then a good laugh

I believe that dreams do come true
I believe there’s destiny for me and you
I believe that good things come to those who wait
I believe love never arrives too late

I believe something good comes from something bad
I believe that for tears of happiness there are tears of sad
I believe everyone has a guardian angel
And the good you do will be rewarded well

I believe sometimes there is no explanation
I believe money can’t buy people’s affection
I believe you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone
I believe a new day arrives with every dawn

I believe a smile can be contagious
I believe in being very outrageous
I believe in living with no regrets
I believe that life is as good as it gets

I believe that God watches over us
I believe the little things are worth the fuss
I believe you have each friend for a reason
I believe you will get punished for treason

I believe that what comes first is family
I believe we should all live in harmony
I believe in making the most of a beautiful day
And it’s not the end until everything’s okay

I believe absence makes the heart grow fonder
I believe you will lose if you sit and wonder
I believe every experience teaches you a lesson
And nothing cures better then a drinking session

I believe everyone has one true love
I believe sometimes we need a little shove
I believe the whole world is a stage
I believe we only get better with age

I believe that to learn you have to live
I believe that to love someone you have to give
I believe one moment can change your life
And there’s still help when you’re in strife

I believe everyone has one true friend
I believe love helps a broken heart mend
I believe in the power of a song
And things will change before too long

I believe living is the best experience
I believe in not laughing at other people’s expense
I believe it’s hard to watch a lover leave
And when they’re gone all you can do is breath

I believe to always look on the bright side
I believe that life is just one big ride
I believe when I die people will grieve
But it’s ok because I believe

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Love is … like dancing

danceThere’s passion, there’s feeling and there’s rhythm!

Sometimes you get asked to dance a social foxtrot – it’s friendly and fun, but boy it gets tedious after a while – the rhythm and the steps never change and there’s no passion.

Sometimes you join in to a samba beat – plenty of rhythm, plenty of passion but it’s over before you really get a chance to enjoy it.

Occasionally you get to join the hip-hop/street crew and that’s totally disjointed, difficult to understand and painful!

Ballet is beautiful, lyrical, passionate and totally mesmerising, but it can be wooden, fake and very painful.

Of all the dances my favourite is the rumba – it takes it time to warm up but there’s passion a-plenty, rhythm, feeling, tenderness and sensuality – I just hate it when that dance ends!!

But after each dance we always learn what we do and don’t like in order to become better dancers the next time we get asked 😉

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I’m just a girl …

… sitting at the top of the tree, waiting patiently for a boy who won’t give up climbing.

Of the 2 who I thought had reached the top (aka Mr Wrong #1 & #2) well #1 did, but then decided the view wasn’t for him and #2 didn’t bother, he just threw me a lifeline as if he was doing me a favour and like a fool I climbed down. I learned my lesson the hard way.

So, now I just sit waiting.

And you know what, it’s a beautiful view up here. It’s peaceful, beautiful, warm and I can see forever 😉

And one day the right boy will reach the top, even if I have to wait until my next lifetime.

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Top 5 Lessons I’ve Learned in Life

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As I’ve meandered through this thing called life, this is what I have learned, so far:

5.  Don’t get on the negative horses – such as anger, bitterness, self-pity, self-doubt, etc. If someone or something has happened to you then yes, your first reaction may be something negative. But if you stay with that negative frame of mind then that is your choice, not the person, or thing, that hurt you. And then the only person you are hurting is yourself. This is a phrase I have only recently discovered and yes, at times it is very difficult to stay off those damn horses, especially if SC is faffing about when it comes to getting homework done (I swear pulling hen’s teeth would be easier!). But I am getting better at letting those negative horses stay grazing in the field, whilst I stay with the positive team 😉

4.  Treat everyone with kindness – yes, they may not treat you the same in return, but surely that says more about them than you. And by treating everyone with kindness, even if it is just a smile, or offering your seat to someone, then you could make a difference to that person’s day. So my act of kindness today is to send everyone a big smile. 🙂

3.  Keep Learning – learning doesn’t stop when you finish school. The more we learn, the more we grow as people. And we learn and grow from life experiences, and if we don’t then life will keep throwing the same stuff at you until you do learn it. It’s a bit like continuous assessment rather than actually ever having to sit down and take an exam. I think one of the toughest lessons I’ve learned is when it comes to relationships to just let it flow. When I first went out with Boomerang Boy we saw each other continuously for 3 weeks, then it was a case of adios senorita. When I next went out with someone and he dumped me I was accused of being too clingy. Then I went to the other extreme and got accused of being too cold and distant! (And yes, I did tut and think “MEN! ARGH!”) But now, if I ever got the chance I would take it slowly and let them do most of the chasing – after all isn’t that what men really want, it’s the whole hunter/gatherer thing – and if they say they’re busy I wouldn’t freak out, like I would have done way back when, I would give them their space and wait for them to come back from the man cave. And if they don’t, then clearly their chapter in my life is over, and I would give thanks for the memories and let go – after all “I’m not a stop along the way, I’m a destination!”

2. Grab life by the Balls (‘scuse my language!) – you’ve got to. You only get one life and as they say “it’s not a dress rehearsal darling!”. Why just exist, when you can live? You have to grab each and every opportunity and curve ball life throws at you. Embrace them, live them. They may be good or not so good. If they are good then your life will be enriched and if they are not so good then you learn and grow from them. There are 86,400 seconds in each day, and I have started pretending after reading it somewhere (think it was one of the quote things I found on Pinterest) that if we think of them as £86,400 that we have to spend each and every day, where no money gets rolled over, you have to spend it all, and wisely, why on earth would you waste a single second? After all, we never know when there won’t be a tomorrow!

1.  Be You, wholeheartedly  – as the saying goes “why fit in when you were born to stand out!” I remind SC of this fairly regularly, and explain that it has taken me most of my life to actually work it out. I am, at last, happy and contented in my own skin. I know who I am, what I am and, equally important what I am not. And I most certainly am not perfect, by any stretch of the imagination. I have many faults but I take each one and try to improve them. I am quirky, some may even call me strange and weird, but does that bother me? Nope. Not any more. No one can be anything other than themselves really. We can try to fit into some kind of mould that society wants us to, but that doesn’t make us happy. It makes us miserable, as we try desperately to please everyone and make others like us for what we are not. We can only be truly happy by being true to ourselves. And the most important thing I have learned about being me, is that the only person I need ever aim to please is me.

So, there you go, they are my Top 5 lessons I have learned.

What have you learned on your journey through life?

 

 

 

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A-Z of Life – Disappointment

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We’ve all been disappointed at some point in our lives.

When we didn’t get the job we so desperately wanted, or the present wasn’t quite what we were expecting, or when things just don’t go our way.

But how we deal with the disappointments is what makes us who we are.

Disappointments can be a blessing or a lesson. Maybe the disappointment has steered us away from something that would not be good for us, or it teaches us something about ourselves.

And why do we get disappointed? Because reality doesn’t match up to our expectations.  Because we hope that things will always turn out for the best – we don’t want to think about the negative.

Even with a positive outlook on life, we can still end up disappointed.

I am always disappointed in myself. I berate myself constantly for everything that goes wrong.  Of course, these days I try to put a more positive spin on things rather than spiral downwards. But I berate myself for over-analysing, thinking too much, worrying unnecessarily, procrastinating, wanting life to be different.

I take every opportunity and curve ball that life throws at and enjoy every single minute, so that if I end up disappointed I can at least sit back and say “Ah well!” instead of “what if?”

I get disappointed when things don’t go my way and I don’t get that audition or an interview for that job I so desperately wanted, but again I have hope and tell myself that destiny has something better for me.

I have lost count of the times that men have disappointed me. The liars, cheats, two-timers, hedgers, manipulators, control freaks all took a part of my life away from me and looking back I can see that their actions always belied their words.

It has taken a long time for me to build myself back from all of that and I am now in a strong place in my life. I am still a believer that there is someone out there who will not disappoint me. Someone whose actions will speak volumes. Someone who will climb to the top of the tree and tell me that I was worth the climb.

So, don’t feel down if you feel disappointed, just hold your head up and grab onto that thing called hope 😉

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They think it’s all over ….

…IT IS NOW!!

After, apparently, the worst World Cup performance since 1958, there will obviously be, as there always are, questions to be asked and lessons to be learned.  However, these would be my questions:

  1. Why does the blame of such a shambolic display always lie at the feet of the manager?
  2. Would my local pub team play better? (Answer, probably yes)
  3. Is the reason the English team fare so badly is that the players have failed to recognise the first and fundamental rule of teamwork …. that it doesn’t contain I!
  4. And obviously, the biggest question I would be asking if I was a Premiership Manager, judging by their performance are they actually worth their £100k + weekly salary?

I mean, seriously, in the real world, if you were paid an outrageous amount of money and spectacularly failed to provide a decent service, or conduct yourself properly in your employment you would be frogmarched out of the building before you could even say “Flaming Ferrari!”  So how come, the England players still have their job, are still paid their salary and the manager always gets the boot.

I get that the manager is in charge of strategy, line-up, etc, but all he can do is put forward what he considers the best strategy against whatever side the team will be facing, at the end of the day if the players can’t actually, as it would appear, pass the ball to each other, then surely they should be penalised as well?

I mean would they actually play any better if their international appearances were paid on a performance basis, i.e., if they didn’t win they didn’t get paid, or do they just need a good old fashioned team-building day to get them working as a team, so they know how each other thinks?

I would just like to reiterate that these are my own general observations. I am not a huge football fan. I do have certain teams that I support, but I don’t get upset if they lose – it’s just a game!  Besides Wimbledon starts on Monday 😉

 

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What are Angels?

We all know the stereotypical image of angels – chubby cheeks, innocent faces, wings, harps, etc.angels

But “what are angels” was the question posed in church today, as it was St Michael and All Angels Day.

According to the vicar, the word itself has derivations from both Greek and Hebrew meaning spiritual being, which is where I suppose the image of an angel with wings stems from!

Further that it also stems from a belief that when God created the heavens and earth, he created 3 levels – the heavens filled with spiritual beings, earth and the underworld.

Apparently the word angel appears only 300 times in the Bible and only 2 angels are given names – Michael and Gabriel.

But what are angels?

Angels are messengers and are sent to deliver information to us – whether that be a lesson we need to learn, or the confidence that we are on the right path – they are purely messengers.

I believe in angels.

I also believe that angels can be spiritual beings and humans.

Sometimes it is angels in their human form that teaches us our greatest lessons in life, and the spiritual angels that then give us the confidence to keep on going.

I also believe we have guardian angels. Someone sitting, watching over us, helping and guiding us in all we do.

What about you?

Do you think angels are real or are they just mythical beings made up from the realms of fantasy?

Do you believe in Guardian Angels?

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