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Love is Like – Sailing

… and it’s never plain sailing either.SailingSunset

Some boats never even make it out of the harbour!

Sometimes we journey on a speedboat, and we want to yell out “slow down”, but it’s far too exciting and fun, for a while, before the boat runs out of power and then it stops as abruptly as it started.

Sometimes we get to travel on a luxury yacht and we pinch ourselves to make sure that it’s really true and that we really have made it to ‘first-class’. All too often though we end up as the second-class mate made to scrub the decks, having been replaced by a more suitable first-class mate!

Sometimes we travel in the tug boat behind the cruise liner wishing that just once we could join everyone on the liner and experience what they are, but the tug boat never catches up.

Sometimes we travel on a fishing vessel where the net is spread wide catching everything and anything in its path. It’s a long, arduous task sifting the good fish from the bad fish though!

If we are very lucky we end up on a boat that is going in the direction we want to travel.

All the signals are good, weather fine, course mapped, provisions full.

And when you set sail, you have to learn to work together to get the boat moving in the right direction, otherwise you can veer off course, stand still, or even just go round in circles.

There may be choppy waters or high gales and this is when you have to work hardest to keep the boat on course. If you are on the right boat whatever you encounter the boat stays its course, mind you sometimes the boat gets abandoned quicker than rats deserting the sinking ship!

Once you have navigated the initial tricky passage from harbour, up the estuary and out into the main body of water, the hardest part is over.

All that’s left to do is sail off into the sunset and enjoy all the ‘adventures that wait in the waters off the coast of tomorrow’!

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I’ve Done It!

I am a recovering ‘biscuit-a-holic’.Biscuits

It’s been a whole year since my last biscuit.

They were my bete noir, my one temptation, my big bulimic tendency – whenever I felt a bit down, I would reach out for the biscuits and would quite happily munch through near-on a whole packet with a cup of tea.

But no more.

I gave them up for Lent in 2011 and found that pretty easy. So last December – after having one too many – I decided to give them up completely.

Again the stopping was very easy, and then from not having eaten them, my sense of smell underwent a drastic detox.

No longer when I opened the biscuit tin (SC is partial to a Malted Milk) did I smell delicious biscuit smells.

Oh no!

All I could smell when I opened the biscuit tin was the processed fats and sugars.

It took 10 days for the nice smell to go, and gradually over the course of a month the sense of the vile processed smell increased.

And now, a year on, the vile processed smell is still there. It is quite repulsive, and makes me glad I don’t indulge any more.

I can honestly say, that I do not feel the need to have a biscuit and even when I have made them at home with SC I do not feel the urge to eat one.

Biscuit addiction – cured 😉

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Love is … like driving

… some people know where they are headed in order to get from A to B.

Some people drive too fast and miss the journey, only to reach the destination, get bored after a while and embark on a new journey.

Some people drive too slowly and carefully and never reach the destination.

Some people take detours to avoid boredom – these detours are always very attractive, but only the very brave will continue off-road. The majority of drivers will return to the safety net of the known route.

Some people are ditherers. They are unsure which direction to take and sometimes miss the right turning. If they are lucky there may be another chance to turn along the way, but only if this is their destined route to take.

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Running Away

If I have had a problem that I’m finding difficult to overcome, the only answer I’ve ever had is to run away.

When I was younger I did want to physically run away when I was faced with problems – bullies, relationships, boredom with my life – to somewhere new, where I could start again, afresh where no one knew me.

My mum said that the same problems would follow me, they would just have different names and faces.

And she was right, because although I could run away from the problem, I couldn’t run away from myself and how I was feeling about me.

Now I’m older, I’ve actually come to like myself. I think I’m all right really. It’s taken a while, but at the end of the day what you see is what you get.

Yes, I’m loud, determined, ambitious, competitive, tend to put my mouth into gear before brain, amongst other things, but I’m also kind, compassionate, thoughtful and trusting (to name but a few). I make no claims to being perfect, but I’m nowhere near as bad a person as people have led me to believe.

Most importantly, I have found peace and happiness with myself. I believe in me. I am what I am, to coin a phrase.

All the bad stuff from bullies to bad boyfriends is in the past. Shut away and will never stop me enjoying life again.

Roosevelt is quoted as saying in his inaugural speech that the only thing we have to fear is fear itself and he’s right.

I have spent the last 20 or so years of my life being fearful, hiding away from the world, afraid of being me, allowing myself to be ‘controlled’ and treated badly.

I’m not afraid anymore.

I’m not going to let happiness pass me by anymore.

I know what I want.

If I were to run away now, I wouldn’t be running from a problem I would be running to a wonderful new chapter in my life.

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Love is … like catching a bus

and in my case, I can wait and wait and wait and the darned things never turn up 😉

But it is true. We sit around waiting for a bus and then one turns up (hopefully).

Sometimes to reach our destination we have to change buses as not all of them are a direct route.

Sometimes the bus breaks down!

So what do you do then?

Maybe another bus turns up, whilst you are waiting for your bus to be fixed.

You are not sure if the broken bus really is going in your direction, but the new bus is. So what do you do?

Can you really keep the new bus waiting whilst you decide whether or not the broken bus might change directions?

Or deep down do you know the broken bus is not going anywhere, but you are reluctant to let go, for sentiments sake, because you’ve been on this particular bus for a while.

Changing buses is a big leap of faith!

Buses don’t wait forever though. Sooner or later they will continue their journey with, or without, you.

So do you stay sitting by the roadside next to the broken down bus that’s not going anywhere, or do you climb aboard the new bus and continue your journey to your destination?

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Choices

Everything we do in life is a choice.

But, there are 3 things I believe we cannot choose:

  1. our family
  2. when we die
  3. who we fall in love with

Everything else is always a choice.

The choices you make will all be part of destiny’s plan for you. Sometimes though we have to make more choices in order to get to the places we are meant to be at, and so the journey seems, at times, harder and sometimes it feels as if you’ll never reach your destination.

I’m a firm believer in following your heart. You can follow your head, but ultimately you’ll always be happier following your heart 😉

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What does it mean to be spiritual?

Does it mean the same as having faith? Or can you be one without the other?

I would say that faith and spirituality are two separate and distinct features about a person. I firmly believe that you don’t have to have one to have the other.

I have faith. I believe there is an ultimate being somewhere out there – obviously, being Christian, for me that is God, but I also respect that other religions have their own ultimate being. I try to lead a good life and go to church pretty much every Sunday, listening to the sermon and trying to make sense of it through my own experiences in life. This is, after all the done thing if you have faith, isn’t it?

But.

To be honest, I find more peace, serenity and faith sitting alone in a church than I do when there is an entire congregation there. I also find this same feeling when I’m alone with my own thoughts on the top of a hill, in the middle of the countryside, or in the middle of the night. When I’m thinking and trying to make sense of my life.

And that, I believe, is why I also have spirituality. I believe in God, but I also believe we are more than just flesh and bones. We have a spirit, a soul, a thinking being, something that ultimately makes us what we are. To me the flesh and bones is just the canvas, our soul is the artwork and ultimately the beauty.

The one question that keeps popping into my head, and has done since I was a teenager, is what happens when we die? Sure I get the body wears out. But what about our souls?

If there is no higher plane, then surely our thoughts, feelings and emotions are nothing more than a chain reaction of several nerve signals sent from the brain, therefore (logical side kicking in), we should be able to switch off our feelings like we can switch off a tap?

But we can’t, can we? If we didn’t have souls, we wouldn’t be able to love another being, it would just be a simple case of procreation, no feelings, no emotion, no nothing. But we don’t, we search our entire lives to find that one true love, the one person who holds not only the key to our heart, but a ‘soul-mate’!

I firmly believe in souls, or spirits, for want of a better word.

So what is spirituality?

According to Wikipedia: Spirituality is belief in an ultimate, or alleged immaterial reality, an inner path enabling a person to discover the essence of his/her beinghttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spirituality

Doesn’t really explain much, does it?

But how do you find that inner path, the way to enlightenment?

Enlightenment comes from within.

It is ultimately about finding yourself, but I don’t believe you can find yourself on a distance learning course, a 2 week retreat, or even a 6 month jaunt to India.

You can only find yourself by making mistakes and learning from them.

Some people take a lifetime, some of us take several lifetimes 😉

Yes, I believe in reincarnation and that we have been on this earth many times in different guises. Why do you think we get that feeling of de ja vu?

For me, being spiritual is about being at one with myself. Yes, I’ve made mistakes, and no doubt I’ll make many more before this journey is over, but I don’t regret anything. I am happy within myself, I have found peace with my life. I can’t change what is ultimately my pre-destined path. I can alter directions, veer around rocks, try to fool myself, but at the end of the day I’ll still end up where I was meant to be.

I believe that sharing a spiritual experience with someone is a magical thing indeed. It can be anything from music and literature to religious rituals. It’s not just the meeting of two human beings, or even two minds, it is the meeting of two souls who make a deep connection.

And that connection can be stronger than anything you have ever experienced before. Whether that connection is destined to last for a few short minutes or a lifetime, who knows? But isn’t that ultimately what we are all searching for a connection with another soul?

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