Tag Archives: fantasies

I Learned by Octavian Paler

I stumbled across this beautiful poem by the Romanian writer Octavian Paler the other day. It’s words are so true I wanted to share them:

We have time …
We have time for everything
To sleep, or to be all over the place,
To regret mistakes and do them again,
To judge others and find excuses for ourselves,

We have time to read and write,
To correct our writings, and regret what we wrote, We have time to make plans and never complete them,
We have time to fantasize about impossible things
and later on to look into the ashes of them.

We have time for ambitions and diseases,
To blame fate and the details,
We have time to watch the clouds, TV commercials and shocking news,
We have time to not answer questions,
To postpone the answers,
We have time to kill a dream and recreate it later
We have time to make friends, and lose them
We have time to get lessons and forget them later on,
We have time to get gifts and not understand them.
We have time for everything.

But we don’t have time for a little kindness.
When one does they are dying.

I learned some important things in my life and I would like to share them with you.
I learned that you can not make somebody love you. All you can do is to be a lovely person, the rest … depends on others.
I learned that it does not matter how much I care, others don’t.
I learned that it takes years to win somebody’s trust and it takes just a few seconds to lose it.
I learned that doesn’t matter what you HAVE in life, all that matters is with WHOM you have it.
I learned that in the first 15 min you can impress somebody by using your charm after that you have to come up with something smart.
I learned that you don’t have to compare yourself with what other people are best at you have to find out what is your best.
I learned that it does not matter what happens to people, what matters is what I can do to help.

I learned that each episode has two faces.

I learned you should part lovingly from those you love, It may be the last time you have the opportunity to see that person.
I learned that you can run a long time after you said that you are exhausted.
I learned that heroes are people who do the right thing when it is needed not caring about the consequences.

I learned that there are people that love you but they do not know how to show it.
I learned that when I am upset I have the right to be upset but I do not have the right to be mean.

I learned that you can have long distance friendships, the same applies to love.
I learned that if somebody does not love you like you wish, It does not mean he or she does not love you from the bottom of their heart.
He or she will occasionally hurt you and you will forgive it.

I learned that it is not enough to forgive others sometimes you have to forgive yourself.
I learned that regardless how much you are suffering the world will not stop.
I learned that your past can have an impact on your personality but you are responsible for what you are going to become.
I learned that, if two people get into a fight it does not mean they do not love each other. And the fact that they do not fight does not mean they love each other.
I learned that sometimes you have to put the person first and not their actions.
I learned that two people can see different sides of the same incident.
I learned that indifferent of the consequences those who are honest with themselves are the winners in life.
I learned that your life can be changed by strangers in a few hours.
I learned that when you think you have nothing to give your friend can call for help, and you will find the strength to help him.

I learned that talking and writing can help to heal your pain.
I learned that you spend too little time with people you love the most…

I learned that is very hard to know when to be nice so you do not hurt people but you still sustain your opinions.

I learned to love so I can be loved in return.

Leave a comment

Filed under Friday Poem

Men in Tights!

What is it about men and stockings?

Not men wearing stockings, but men wanting women to wear stockings.

Is it because it reminds them of the stereotypical French Maid, and pre-conceived ideas of women of that ilk? Or is it because they think it gives them easier access?

Not to put a damper on things boys, but they are uncomfortable.

In my case I always have to buy large or extra-large stockings, due to leg length (yes, I have actually got legs longer than Julia Roberts and I am shorter than her!), which means width-wise they would fit an elephant, and so I achieve a very sexy Nora Batty look, i.e., wrinkly round the ankles! 😉

Similarly, who in their right mind would want to faff about with suspender belts? Clasping the front ones on are fine – if the little suckers actually go through the hole they are supposed to. But don’t even get me started on the back ones, you try to line them up centre back, clasp them, only to find they are clasped somewhere around your hip bone. Grrrrrr

I suppose that’s why hold-ups were invented.

Again, great idea, but what happens when the ‘sort-of’ sticky bit at the top of your hold-up decides it really isn’t going to stick? There you are walking down the street, or round the office and suddenly ….OOPS … you’ve got a hold-up round your ankle. What’s a girl to do? Casually reach down and pull the offending article back up, or make a dash to the nearest convenience? It rates up there with leaving the ladies with your skirt tucked in!

To be fair, I did wear hold-ups when I was pregnant, for the simple fact tights were uncomfortable over the bump!

On a comfort scale stockings and suspenders rate right up there with thongs. Thank you all the same but I prefer not to walk around with dental floss up my backside and giving myself bruises every time I sit down due to the suspender clasps digging into my thighs.

Don’t get me wrong, suspenders are great if you’re having a night in!!!! 😉

But please, on a night out when I’m all dressed up, please let me be comfortable rather than spending the evening fiddling with what may look like my backside but is in fact the suspender belt, which is driving me crazy!!!

If you really think they’re sexy, please feel free to try them out for yourselves. Who knows, you may find it liberating!

I know several men who have no problems wearing them, and damn it, have great legs into the bargain. But you may just find out what an absolute pain in the rear end they are!!

Leave a comment

Filed under General