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A-Z of Life – Energy

energyEnergy!

Sometimes don’t you wish you could just jump out of bed at 5 in the morning full of vim and vigour ready to start the day, instead of hitting the snooze button for just a few moments longer whilst you go back to that wonderful dream?

But that’s not really the type of energy I’m talking about.

I’m talking about the life energy you give off in your daily lives.

It is said that we are but mirror images of our innermost thoughts and that we receive what we give.

Sounds crazy, right?

Think about it though.

We’ve all had one of ‘those’ days – you know the one where anything that could go wrong … goes wrong!

Is it just because we’ve run into a spell of bad luck, or is it merely that one stroke of misfortune has turned your life energy for the day from positive to negative and so nothing seems to go right afterwards?

So, thinking forward from that one unfortunate incident, if we let that mar our thoughts then we are emitting nothing but negative energy and therefore will attract more negativity into our lives.

Thinking about it another way – have you ever been out with friends and one friend has done nothing but moan and whine about how awful things are, etc.?   Don’t you feel exhausted after leaving? That’s the result of all your positive energy being drained by so much negativity.

I will admit to doing my fair share of whining … in the past (and I most definitely mean in the past) and now I actually can feel positive energy being sucked out of me if someone is doing nothing but moaning (my crystals are definitely earning their keep in the house I can tell you – sometimes it’s Moan Central!) and I have to either meditate or stroll outside to reconnect my positive energy with the universe. (OMG! Now I sound like some complete nut-job!)

And with all those negative vibes you are emitting you will attract other people on the same negative wavelength – don’t I know that! (But moving swiftly on …)

As you know I’ve crossed the stream from negative to positive over the last couple of years and let me tell you life has never felt so good.

Just by thinking that cup is always full, being grateful and thankful for each and day, thinking positively about every situation that life throws at me (even if it’s not that positive I just flip it to make it so) and generally having a much rosier outlook on life (and that doesn’t necessarily mean looking through rose-tinted glasses) life is exciting.

Life is an adventure.

Life is always full of surprises.

So next time life throws you a bum-deal, try not to get down, just try to think of a positive about the situation and your day will get infinitely better.

As they say “one small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”

So smile 😉

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Friday Poem – Phenomenal Woman

In honour of the 2nd anniversary of her death, this week’s “Friday Poem” (and yes, I know it’s Saturday) is Phenomenal Woman by the amazing American poet Maya Angelou.

So this one is for every woman out there – and “always remember you are stronger and braver than you think” (courtesy of Winnie the Pooh – love that silly old bear!)

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman

Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

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School PE – Is anyone else scarred for life?

Urgh! The mere thought of PE lessons at school is enough to fill me with dread.

Primary school wasn’t too bad.

But secondary school – OMG! Scar central.

I don’t know what was worse – the obligatory uniform PE knickers (they had nothing on Bridget Jones’s big pants) or freezing in mid-winter trying to avoid playing sport I absolutely detested, namely hockey.

I get the whole “children need exercise” that is rammed down our throats, to make us feel better that we are being forced to play something we:

a) clearly have no interest in

b) are absolutely no good at whatsoever

c) would prefer to be doing pretty much anything else but

BUT surely over the years the educated bods in education might have actually cottoned on to the fact that not all children like all sports.

So why are thousands of school-kids still being put through the torture of having to endure sports lessons in sports they have absolutely no desire to play?

Most secondary schools these days (or maybe it’s just the ones where I live) have had shed loads of money thrown at them to build state-of-the art Gym blocks – complete with fitness gyms, dance studios, etc. But yet, they still insist on making the students do the bog standard crappy sports subjects of old.

I applied for a job in Australia a while back (wishful thinking, one day I’ll make it down under … do you think I could claim asylum? Nah, didn’t think so.)  Anyway, I thought I’d better check out schools for SC, just on the off-chance Lady Luck was smiling down on me.

And frankly, they seem to have nailed the sports thing.  One school I checked out offered the children a variety of sports from which they could choose what they wanted to play during the winter and summer seasons.  So boys weren’t forced to play football or rugby – they had a choice from football, rugby, basketball and hockey (I think) – and similarly in the summer they weren’t forced to run around a track or play cricket but again had a choice from cricket, tennis and swimming.

Surely, this might be a more sensible option for secondary schools in this country to adopt.  After all, they have a huge number of PE staff and not all teachers are teaching every lesson.

And if the students were given a choice as to what to play, maybe they might actually begin to enjoy PE instead of having this looming sense of dread every time a PE lessons sails into view on the timetable.

So were you left scarred by your PE experience at school or did you enjoy it?

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To Schmooze or Not To Schmooze…

… That is the question!schmooze

According to Urban Dictionary the definition of “Schmooze” is: Making ingratiating small talk – talk that is business oriented, designed to both provide and solicit personal information but avoids overt pitching. Most often an artifact of “networking.” It is more art than science but can be learned.

But, blimey Charlie is schmoozing difficult!

I admit I can’t do it.

I can’t do small talk. I can’t talk to someone with an underlying intent of getting something out of it.

I never have been able to.

When I left drama school we had the usual showcase performance with casting directors and agents attending with the ‘networking’ after – but false situations like that fill me with dread and after 5 minutes I had to leave.

I simply don’t have the courage to just walk up to someone and start a random conversation in order to find out who they are and what I can get out of them – be it a job, a sale, etc.

How do you do it?

How can you learn it?

As a business owner I’ve attended business networking events – and the same thing. I can’t talk about myself. I’m happy to listen to other people, but opening up and making the right kind of schmoozy noises, I find excruciatingly painful.

Even if I try to put on a different persona and ‘act’ the part I still fail, because deep down I’m just too nervous, believe that people can see right through me and never know quite what to say – there’s a reason I always hated improve classes at drama school!  (I’m one of those people who can never quite get the right words out, and then 5 minutes later think “damn, I should have said that!”)

Thankfully, these days I don’t need to go to networking events – the business area I’m in doesn’t hang out at the normal business events. But I have to do the dreaded cold calling! Which I find slightly easier, because it’s on the phone and I have a script. Then if I get to meet a prospective client it’s because I’ve already spoken to them and they want to hear more – so it’s not a cold, having to make small talk situation.

That’s probably why I’m so rubbish when it comes to dating. I’ve always been able to talk to boys/men, but when it comes to one I actually like and they ask me out for coffee I’m actually petrified of saying or doing the wrong thing that when I try to be myself I always end up looking a complete wally.

If anyone has any tips on how to schmooze effectively, please let me know – I think I need all the help I can get 😉

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If you were a Superhero – what would your name & superpower be?

superherosDarn it, Wonder Woman’s already taken!

Hmmm!  Guess I’ll have to go with my second choice then – PJ Girl!!!

Saving the world in her pyjamas.

So that’s a name sorted, now what about a superpower?

I always thought it would be kind of cool to be able to stop time to say something, do something, or in the case of being a superhero saving something without anyone else being able to witness it on account of them being ‘frozen in time’.  Just like Piper’s power in Charmed (loved that series)

But if I want a really good superpower, that just seems a bit lame.

Being immortal’s not a superpower really is it? Nah, didn’t think so.

Hmm, that’s quite tricky.

Ooo, how about the power to read minds. That way you would know what people were thinking before they actually did anything and you could foil any dastardly plans they were hatching – and not just in the nick of time.

Maybe, as well as reading minds what if you could manipulate minds too?  Or is that straying away from superhero and into super villainess territory?  (I reckon I’m more of a naughty super villain actually than a hero if truth be told 😉 )

OK, no freezing time, no being immortal, no reading (or manipulating) minds ….

Thinking … Thinking …

Ooo … Nope

Oh, do you ever do that thing if someone in front of you – either in a queue, or in a car in front – does something really stupid and you throw your hands up almost as if you’re flicking something that would just hit their ears and make them wonder what it was?

Not a b***h slap – PJ Girl is a little bit more refined than that please.

Almost like a little splash of water on their ears, just enough to make them notice, but not too much. (Like Deborah Kerr in “An Affair to Remember” when she was being whispered about and she dipper her fingers into the pink champagne and proceeded to then flick it at the women who were gossiping about her – class act)

That would be fun to do, but it’s not really a superpower is it?

This is really tricky – if I had the power to do anything, what would I do?

Staying with the Charmed theme, I’ve always wanted to be able to move things with my mind. That would be really handy in a superhero fight.

But maybe, if I’m PJ Girl (saving the world in my PJs) maybe instead of moving things with my mind, maybe I should be able to change people’s emotions with my mind (OK that’s not quite as evil as manipulating them) and save them with cuddles – then I can climb back onto my unicorn and fly off into the sunset 😉

Guess I’m all for mind manipulation after all (MWA HA HA )D )

 

 

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I’ve a confession to make – I’m in love …

… with my pyjamas 😉

There is no nicer feeling (cuddling SC aside) than stepping into my PJs at the end of the day – about 6 o’clock actually.  Some people have wine o’clock, I work on PJ o’clock.

With my PJs on I feel like a new woman.  Well, a woman who can actually relax from the day’s hectic schedule of early morning wake ups (2am this morning! (well it was his birthday and he was excited, the light didn’t actually go on until 5, but he didn’t go back to sleep!)), rushing around getting ready for school/work, the school run (shudder), work, housework, afternoon school run (shudder), after-school activities, tea, bath, story, collapse.

And yes, sometimes I even stay in my PJs all day – usually during school holidays. We have PJ days, and just curl up and watch movies all day long – total bliss 😉

If you’re interested today’s PJs are a fetching purple and green check trousers with a blue top – sounds clashy, but it actually goes.

Am planning a long summer holiday, so maybe I’ll start a new category on the blog called “The PJ Diaries” and post pictures of my PJs on holiday – heck holiday feet have gone viral, so why not my PJs 😉

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A-Z of Life – Disappointment

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We’ve all been disappointed at some point in our lives.

When we didn’t get the job we so desperately wanted, or the present wasn’t quite what we were expecting, or when things just don’t go our way.

But how we deal with the disappointments is what makes us who we are.

Disappointments can be a blessing or a lesson. Maybe the disappointment has steered us away from something that would not be good for us, or it teaches us something about ourselves.

And why do we get disappointed? Because reality doesn’t match up to our expectations.  Because we hope that things will always turn out for the best – we don’t want to think about the negative.

Even with a positive outlook on life, we can still end up disappointed.

I am always disappointed in myself. I berate myself constantly for everything that goes wrong.  Of course, these days I try to put a more positive spin on things rather than spiral downwards. But I berate myself for over-analysing, thinking too much, worrying unnecessarily, procrastinating, wanting life to be different.

I take every opportunity and curve ball that life throws at and enjoy every single minute, so that if I end up disappointed I can at least sit back and say “Ah well!” instead of “what if?”

I get disappointed when things don’t go my way and I don’t get that audition or an interview for that job I so desperately wanted, but again I have hope and tell myself that destiny has something better for me.

I have lost count of the times that men have disappointed me. The liars, cheats, two-timers, hedgers, manipulators, control freaks all took a part of my life away from me and looking back I can see that their actions always belied their words.

It has taken a long time for me to build myself back from all of that and I am now in a strong place in my life. I am still a believer that there is someone out there who will not disappoint me. Someone whose actions will speak volumes. Someone who will climb to the top of the tree and tell me that I was worth the climb.

So, don’t feel down if you feel disappointed, just hold your head up and grab onto that thing called hope 😉

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