I know, I know. People who read so-called ‘self-help’ books are the people who want to do something, but never get round to actually doing it.
But I did 😉
However, I don’t there is just 1 ‘self-help’ guide out there to fix all the problems – after much research, reading and soul searching the answer lies with us. But as a complete book geekette I find that books help put things into perspective, if I’m feeling something but don’t know why, if I can find an answer in a book I can generally then try identify what I’ve read with my own feelings and work things out (if that makes any sense whatsoever?)
And like I said, there’s more than 1 book out there, and over the last couple of years, I’ve read loads. There are some that have struck more chords than others, and some that I picked up and immediately put back down again!
These are probably my Top 3:
3. The Chimp Paradox by Dr Mike Peters
I wrote a blog about this book way back in 2013 (“Me & My Chimp” – just re-published it) and since writing the post ‘Charlie’ and I have in general sorted out our differences. Sometimes he raises his naughty little head and starts whispering negative thoughts into my brain, but these day I just try to ignore him.
The book, without going into too much detail – after all it’s all in the previous post – details how those annoying little self-doubt voices you hear in your head are just akin to a chimp lodging in your brain. And if you take notice of them, you feed them and they become bigger and stronger until they pretty much rule your life.
So, as the signs at the zoo keep reminding us “Do Not Feed the Chimps!”
2. The Good Psychopath’s Guide to Success by Dr Kevin Dutton & Andy McNab
… or “How to use your inner psychopath to get the most out of life.” And no, that doesn’t mean you have to turn into Hannibal Lecter or Norman Bates!
Effectively, the gist of the book is that everyone has psychopathic qualities, such as fearlessness, empathy, and decisiveness, etc., and if we think of them as dials on a radio they get turned up and down as we need them to get the best out of any situation. (Note, a bad psychopath has the dials turned up to maximum permanently!) They explain that top lawyers and surgeons have these ‘good’ psychopathic tendencies to do the job they need to do with the least emotion possible – and having experienced the legal system, I’d have been a terrible lawyer, I am way too emotional!
But what the man in the street needs to do is tune in to these dials and alter the frequency as and when they need to help them out. There is a sequel which actually takes all the qualities and shows you how to put them to use in every day situations – “Sorted – The Good Psychopath’s Guide to Bossing Your Life”
And my Number 1 is a book I randomly picked off the shelf in the library (really must buy my own copy) called “Flip It” by Michael Heppell.
It’s basic premise is to pretty much take every situation and just flip it from the negative to the positive to energise your actions and ensure you get the best out of any situation.
It’s full of tips and exercises and is truly eye-opening.
So my new mantra for anything I encounter these days that gives me a headache is to either flip it or f**k it (which incidentally is the name of another self-help book 😉 )